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female-only:

"Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us."


Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood (1976)

Monday, April 21, 2014

cunicular:

feministforthewin:

gynocraticgrrl:

Dr. Mary Anne Layden informing of porn culture’s societal impact.

(Uploaded on May 27, 2011)

Mary Anne Layden, PhD
Psychotherapist
Director of Education, Center for Cognitive Therapy
Department of Psychiatry bio page

Mary Anne Layden, PhD, is a psychotherapist and Director of Education at the Center for Cognitive Therapy at the University of Pennsylvania. She is the Director of the Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program and the Director of the Social Action Committee for Women’s Psychological Health.

She co-authored the book Cognitive Therapy of Borderline Personality Disorder with C. Newman, A. Freeman and S. Morse. She has written numerous chapters on Cognitive Therapy especially on treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder. She has co-authored a chapter with Linnea Smith called “Adult Survivors of the Child Sexual Exploitation Industry” in Cooper, S. et al (Eds) Medical, Legal, & Social Science Aspects of Child Sexual Exploitation: A Comprehensive Review of Pornography, Prostitution, and Internet Crimes. - (x)

I am going to go out on a limb here and share some personal information that related to this set.

I was in a 2+ year relationship with a sexually abusive partner. Pornography played an unfortunately large role in our “sex life.” He watched hours of porn every day, but he didn’t want me to know what he was watching (Lord knows its was awful and I am kind of glad I don’t know). He constantly wanted to video tape us having sex. And the “sex” we had was basically him attempting to enact porn, over and over again. It was uncomfortable, many times actually painful, and often humiliating. All too often it was rape.

I am anti-pornography for so, so many reasons, the abuse of the women in it being first and foremost. But the negative attention porn is getting recently is all about the men who watch it, how they can’t connect with their partners, or have difficulty reaching orgasm. It is unfortunate that they are experiencing difficulties based on an addiction that started before they were likely old enough to realize what was happening.

But what about us? What about the women who have sex with these men? We don’t talk about those women enough. Teenage girls just coming into their sexuality being told they have to like rough sex because that is how its done, young women facing actual physical violence in the name of men’s orgasms, because they emulate what they watch, in order to feel the same arousal. No woman should suffer at the hands of her partner because of what it takes to “get him off.” We are not obligated to be sexual punching bags to an entire generation of men who watch our violation, degradation, and humiliation with glee and a fucking hard on. 

So yeah, bummer that dudes can’t finish because our bodies don’t look like porn stars and we don’t let them hurt us the same ways women in porn are hurt. But like hell will I sit and be silent when there are women being hurt—in the production of porn and in the subsequent behavior of its users—so we can coddle some dudes who don’t see us as people. 

"Teenage girls just coming into their sexuality being told they have to like rough sex because that is how its done, young women facing actual physical violence in the name of men’s orgasms, because they emulate what they watch"

This was my experience, this is how my sexuality developed and I am so angry about that.

Sunday, April 20, 2014

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